When This


Turns Into This


Sometimes, what you think will be “Movin’ On Up” when you accept your man’s invitation to take that next ‘big step’ to Move-in together, in reality, have you wanting to ‘move it on out’ and not just out of the house! When your dreams turn into a holy nightmare and things are going downhill, Just Do It- cut your losses and join WestSide Rentals ASAP!  Ten ways to figure it out and strategize a new plan to ‘Hit The Road Jack’ so you can “Be Happpppyyyy, like a room without a roof”, or just a different roof!

#1 The Heart Will Fail You Every Time

When moving in with your significant other doesn’t turn out to be the blissful spousal paradise you both had envisioned, and you have recovered from the actual move itself, so you no longer have that excuse, and you are forced to look at the problem with open eyes, all I can say is to pull up one of your makeshift chairs (cardboard moving boxes), and think this one through.  I am not saying you should feel it through because after all, your stupid crazy heart is what got you here in the first place, so give it a rest when it comes to examining the reality of ‘what condition your condition is in’. If you cannot logically come up with five really really good reasons to stay with the man you are with, then you need to leave.

#2  Confront The Problem

So, hopefully, you have thought through what logically has gotten you into this position and you have a clear understanding of what the issues between you two are that are just not going to be solved while living under the same said roof, at least not until he puts a ring on it! So, gut up, and go tell him your decision. You do not have to have your plan all worked out, just know what you do and don’t want and make it clear that you have decided to change your situation.  He may beg you to stay, or most likely, he will be relieved, and help you pack, which will likely make you want to either strangle him with the plastic pack wrap or suffocate yourself, but please, refrain, and just walk away… calmly…Head Held HIGH!!! Afterall, you are busy, and moving on! Where? You do not know. When? Well, that is yet to be determined and at the mercy of the cheapest movers you can hire, but all of this will eventually work itself out.

#3  Use Your Connections to Help You Disconnect

If ever there was a time to use your social networks and connections, it is now.  Facebook blast out a request to a tailored list of friends asking if anyone knows of apartments becoming available soon or jobs depending on the severity of your situation.  The best way to get reconnected into your world and to disconnect from the current one you are in is through friends you trust. Use those trusted contacts! Now, also, use the contacts you don’t know so you can get a grasp of what the market looks like right now and how difficult it is going to be to find a new place. Use resources like Craigslist and Westside RentalsZillow, and Trulia, and my favorite new resource, Padmapper!

#4  Take Back Your Security…Deposit That Is

Depending on the lease you have signed and whether or not you have signed it as a Tenant, Co-Tenant, or Occupant, you may actually have a little bit of wiggle room.  Hopefully, you did not list yourself as a Co-Tenant but rather an Occupant forfeiting any financial responsibility.  But, if you’re on ‘financial hook’, call the landlord explain the situation, and let them know you really have to get out of the lease and will be happy to find another individual to take over your lease. Find out what your options are, and hopefully your man is not a total jerk, and will be willing to either take over the lease completely, move out as well, or be willing to share the place with a creditworthy tenant who has the worst body odor ever and signs the lease via Docusign and greets your boyfriend with his scent first! Surprise!

#5   Learn From Your Mistakes and Don’t Go Breaking Your Heart Again!

Lesson learned. Maybe you are not the girl who is cool and progressive and willing to play house before he has fully committed to being your “Full-Time Lover,” and that is just fine and dandy!  Never has it been a bad thing to be “Marrying Material”.  If you are not ready to sacrifice morals, or discover you both have irreconcilable differences three weeks in, then know who you are and who you are not, and next time that ‘Big Step’ is offered, tell him he has to step it up big time because the only ‘next steps’ you are going to be taking will be “Going to the chapel”.  If he has a problem with that, then he can just keep on walkin’!




For The Love of Lashes

Lashing Out

Everyone is digging all of these amazing new products to get those peepers popping! No one really minds spending $100-$200.00 a month to be able to bash those lashes in full effect. But, are they really being given the information they need to determine if the product is even safe or effective? If you are like me, probably not, since all we care about these days is instant gratification.

Last week, I had the pleasure of sitting in on an employee training session at Naimee’s Beauty Supply in Los Angeles.  I was just about to leave the store and this really cute guy asked me if I would like to sit-in on their presentation to learn a little bit about lashes, and how could I refuse? So, he was actually the sales rep for NeuLash.  Of course, I was skeptical being that the information was coming from a biased source, but they allowed me to grill them and had some pretty interesting information to share.

I have had eyelash extensions in the past, and they just fall off and irritate my eyes after spending $150-$300.00! So, I was considering asking my doctor for a prescription for Latisse.  After all, I do love Brooke Shields and anything she does I am willing to try! BUT NOT NOW! I found out that Latisse is a very dangerous product. It was originally used to treat patients with Glaucoma, but they discovered that patients were actually experiencing hair growth around the eye area, particularly the lash line. So, instead of going back and reformulating the product for a more suitable and safe applicator with a thicker consistency, they just decided to continue distributing the product via medical prescriptions, which added to the appeal.

If your doctor says it’s safe, it must be safe, right? Wrong. People with light colored eyes, basically any color other than brown, are at risk for permanent brown stains on their irises! Not only that, but Latisse does not have any type of preservative, so it requires you to use a new applicator to apply the nearly liquid drippy substance on the top lid of your lash line every day. Women do not realize the danger of the drippy formula. Well, I am here to tell you! That drippy formula was not intended for the outside of your eye in the first place. It seeps into the corners of your eyes when you sleep and actually can cause accidental hair growth on the inside and outside corners of your eyes! The rep told me that he had one client who used to have her facialist pluck the inner corners of her eyes due to this very side effect. Not good. Also, if you accidentally let any of the formulae drips down the side of your face, it will actually cause hair growth in the very place it dripped. How would you like a permanent harry tear line down your face? That would be oh so cute! I was shocked and it takes a lot to shock me, as I love to try everything when it comes to beauty products, surgeries, anything to improve what God gave you! So, I thought, if these people are going to shoot down Latisse, a well-known, highly popular drug prescribed every single day, they better have a really good argument to support their stance!

That is when they began to talk about neuLash. It is not a drug- it is a cosmetic, meaning it did not have to be approved by the FDA, however, the makers of neuLash went ahead and performed laboratory testing to meet FDA standards. The consistency is much thicker, so it stays in place, and it does not cause any harmful side effects like discoloration of the iris or dark circles around the lids. You only have to use it for 6 weeks and the product lasts for two years. Also, you can use it on your lower and upper lashes as well as your eyebrows! Now, how great is that? I wanted to know about their preservatives, as we all are discovering most preservatives aren’t good for your body and could even cause cancer! They are all natural preservatives and have been tested and approved! Whew! Now let’s discuss the bottom line, shall we? Latisse costs a fortune every month and neuLash is $180.00 for the large bottle exclusively sold at Neiman Marcus and Saks Fifth Avenue. If you want to purchase the smaller bottle, you can through neuLash’s website, but you will end up paying $150.00 for half the amount of neuLash, so you might as well get twice as much and spend a little bit more.  The larger size is only available at Neiman’s and Saks.  Here is a list of benefits straight from their website if you are wondering, so check it out, ladies and men!

PS: The female rep had the thickest, longest lashes I think I have ever seen and she did not have an ounce of mascara on! She said she has to trim her upper lashes because they get so long!! That is what I am talking about!

Check it out at neuLash

and purchase online at Neiman Marcus or Saks Fifth Avenue

neuLash Safety Assessment

  • Safety/regulatory status in the US and the European Union – APPROVED
  • Consumer Skin Sensitization Patch Study – PASSED
  • Ophthalmologist Eye Irritation Potential Study  PASSED
  • All ingredients have been successfully marketed to consumers in the US and/or Internationally.
  • Cruelty – Free
  • Paraben-Free


Flash those Lovely Lashes Ladies!

Abby Fender- Your Bargain Buddy and Personal Shopping Material Girl!


Some of My Favorite Things


Today I thought I would share my favorite beauty products that I am using.  I am not a huge beauty guru, but when I find something great I feel the need to share its greatness with the world.   So, here are this week’s winners:

Aubrey Organics Rosa Mosqueta hand and body lotion

Why I love this product: The price -$12.95 per 8 oz. bottle- you cannot beat that!

Also, the fact that it is absolutely the best-smelling lotion resembling a light rose scent similar to Chanel’s rose scented blushes, and it’s completely organic.  The creator, Aubrey Hampton, committed himself to making a lot of industry “firsts” when manufacturing his line of organic skin care products. He claims, and has proven in demonstrations, that the lotion is completely edible! While I do not recommend you eating the lotion, he wants consumers to know that it is not only safe for your body to absorb, but also completely natural.

Aubrey Organics Rosa Mosqueta Hand and Body Lotion $12.95

available at Whole Foods grocery stores nationwide or online at



Why I love this product: This product is so exclusive it was given to celebs at this year’s Sundance Film Festival in every “swag bag,” not that means anything, but it happens to be a great product! It is a foundation that not only provides weightless coverage, and I mean weightless, but it also acts as a cure-all for acne, fine lines, and wrinkles.  Cutting-edge technology using oxygen of all things heals your skin and restores it to its original condition while you wear it.  It really is the “fountain of youth.” Unfortunately, as of right now, it is only available on a select few websites and your dermatologist. I recommend getting the product through your dermatologist if possible because he or she will be sure to match the foundation to your exact skin tone.  Here is the best part of this product, it is only $66.00 for a big ol’ bottle!  Also, it has SPF 25, and whether or not you believe in Global Warming, your skin is exposed to harmful rays every day and those days add up turning into years, and you get my point. This is when you wake up one day and realize when looking in the mirror, “Man! Since when did I look this old? I am only 26!”  Been there done that.

Oxygenetix Oxygenating Foundation SPF 25, 15ml

http://www.beautyflyrx.com $66.00

Tarte Cosmetics Natural Cheek Stain

Why I love this product: It’s my “lifesaver.” If I am running late to a meeting, which is usually the case, I rely on my Tarte Cheek Stain and prefer the shade “Full Blossom” to bring me back from the grave.  I apply it to my lips and cheeks as it is completely organic and designed for use on both lips and cheeks. It gives me that natural blushed look and makes my eyes pop.  Another great reason to invest in this miracle stick is the great return on your investment. I have had the same stick for over 5 months now and it looks like I have at least 4 more months to go! I use this product every single day and it is an absolute staple to my “face-painting” routine.

Tarte “Eco-Chic” Cheek Stain $30.00

Available at Sephora stores nationwide as well as online at


Lorac Double Feature Paraben-Free Concealer/Highlighter

Why I love this product: I think this product is the best highlighter on the market. I have tried so many products that are similar, but this product contains a concealer stick, roller ball on the tip to blend, and (my personal favorite) the flesh-colored liquid highlighter. Honestly, I only use the highlighter, by applying a dab on the inside corners of my eyes, directly under the brow bone, and to obtain that nice dewy glow, on the top of my cheekbones.  Unlike other highlighters, it is subtle and natural, where other products seem so obvious and harsh.  I have had the same tube since April, and I think I can probably squeeze another month or so out of it, so for the money, it is well worth it! I also have to add, for those who do not know, Parabens cause cancer and are found in many common department store cosmetic lines, but not in this product, which is really great being that I use it every day.

Lorac Double Feature

Paraben-Free Concealer/Highlighter $24.00

Available online at http://www.loraccosmetics.com or Sephora stores nationwide

Amore-Pacific Organic Skin Line

Why I love this product: This is a new product for me, being that I have only been using for about two weeks. However, I noticed a major difference in my skin after the first five days! I am weird in that I have a strange aversion to washing my face because I hate water running down my arms and getting everywhere, so I have used towelettes at the most, no moisturizer, no toner, basically- I have ignored my skin for fear of breaking out and irrational fears of water running amuck! So, now that I am 26 years old, and have noticed lines and have decided not to continue relying upon harmful antibiotics such as Accutane, and have committed to sticking with a skin care line and actually using it! I have to tell you, the eye cream is amazing. I have deep set eyes, so I always seem to have dark circles and sensitive skin, which is tricky anyway.  I am currently using their Enzyme Peel three times a week which is cool because it is pre-measured and does not burn your skin.  I also use the towelettes at night- to avoid the water issue, and then follow it up with the toner. Now, I know this seems like a lot, but if I can do it, anyone can do it.  Then I use the age-defying moisturizer and eye cream for my eyes and lips! I understand now, why it is so important to take care of your skin and the difference a great skin care line can make in the health and appearance of your skin.  This product is organic and the main ingredient is green tea, grown on their own farms.   This may seem like a lot of information, but this product deserves the attention! I cannot believe the difference in my skin, thank you Amore-Pacific.

Warning– it is not cheap but it lasts forever and it is great!

Available online at http://www.amorepacific.com and Neiman Marcus stores nationwide.Price available upon request, but don’t ask. It will only shock you! See maybe if I say this you’ll think it’s like in the thousands and be pleasantly surprised!

The Yellow Bird Hair-Blow Dryer

Why I love this product:  I have purchased many hair blow dryers over the years, but I have yet to find one that matches the performance of The Yellow Bird! I just love it. I have really long hair but a short amount of time to dry it, so I always have time to have freshly washed hair and make it to where ever I am going on-time with The Yellow Bird’s help. The most fun product they make is “The Baby Bird.” It is just as powerful, but tiny, so it is just perfect for traveling- especially now that you have to purchase your luggage a ticket to ride! The cheapest place to purchase is actually online!

The Yellow Bird Hair-Blow Dryer

Available for only $21.99

Get ya’ one!



ModelCo Tan Airbrush In A Can

Why I Love This Product:  I don’t know about you, but I am so sick of having to go to the tanning salon and get sprayed but a total stranger.  For a quick pick-me-up without having to leave the house, try Tan Airbrush In A Can, and tell me you do not LOVE the stuff after the first time! I also have the smaller can for the face.  It is just so natural and easy to apply.  It will add maybe 2 extra minutes to your daily routine and it actually smells decent, like coconuts.  The price is so-so, meaning it is a little bit more than I would want to spend, but then again, I live for a bargain! To extend the life of this little secret weapon, I just use a small amount on my chest, neck, and cheekbones. If you apply lotion prior to applying, it will actually go on smoother and you can rub it in with your hand. Be sure to immediately wash your palms after applying! If not, you will learn the hard way.

ModelCo Tan Airbrush In A Can

Available nation-wide at all Sephora stores as well as various online retailers including:

www.shopzilla.com $30.00

Rene Furterer Paris Naturia Dry Shampoo

Why I Love This Product:  The little green bottle is an item I absolutely could not live without. I have very fine hair, and while I could and possibly should wash it every day, I choose not to thanks to Furterer.  I have used several dry shampoo brands, but this particular one actually makes your hair turn into supermodel’s hair after two, three, even four days of not washing it.  It seems like hair that is freshly washed, never really does what you want unless you just get really lucky, but this stuff gives you Cindy Crawford hair with less work than if you washed and styled it daily.  Imagine that?! They recently released the tiny travel bottles and hairspray, which is really convenient not only for the plane but also to throw in your purse.  It smells great too and is nourishing to your hair as well. It is expensive, but it is “worth its weight in gold!”

Rene Furterer Paris Dry Shampoo

Available through all Sephora stores nation-wide also online at:

www.renefurterer.com  or www.amazon.com for the cheapest price  $19.50-$23.99